In reflecting on our work with individuals and organizations over the years, we developed this concept of Emotional Aptitude to capture the depth and breadth of the impact our feelings have on our thoughts, what we say, how we interact with others, how we adapt to change, our sense of worthiness, and whether we experience contentment. 

We define Emotional Aptitude as an innate and/or acquired capacity to be aware of, pause with, reflect upon, own our feelings, and the meaning we ascribe to them. No one "makes us feel anything", we produce and experience our own feelings. We are in choice.

Emotional Aptitude involves practicing day-in and day-out emotional awareness, acceptance, ownership of our stories and feelings, discernment, courage, generosity, curiosity, appreciation, surrender, forgiveness and letting go of being right and other attachments. Cultivating our Emotional Aptitude means being vulnerable, understanding and leaning into life knowing it is uncertain, that failure and recovery is integral to our sense of worthiness and growth, that we all wish to be loved, to be seen, to be part of a community, and to recognize that one’s emotional state impacts yourself, work, team, organization and community. It is a choice as to whether you live from a place or fear or a place of love.

To be loved means first of all to be recognized as existing.
— Thich Nhat Hanh, Fear - Essential Wisdom for Getting Through the Storm