We define Emotional Aptitude as an innate and/or acquired capacity to be aware of, pause with, reflect upon, and own our feelings (no one makes us feel anything) with every breath. Our feelings ebb and flow from moment to moment. We don't have control over much that happens in life, we do, however, have control about about what stories we believe and tell ourselves, what choice we make when we notice feelings erupting at any given moment, and whether we "pause, stop, breathe and reflect" or "react" to the situation. In other words, if we choose, we have control over what we believe and how we behave.
Emotional Aptitude involves practicing day-in and day-out emotional awareness, acceptance, ownership of our stories and feelings, discernment, courage, generosity, curiosity, appreciation, surrender, forgiveness and letting go of being right and other attachments. Cultivating our Emotional Aptitude means being vulnerable, understanding and leaning into life knowing it is uncertain, that failure and recovery is integral to our sense of worthiness and growth, that we all wish to be loved, to be seen, to be part of a community, and to recognize that one’s emotional state impacts yourself, work, team, organization and community. It is a choice as to whether you live from a place or fear or a place of love.
Self and organizational emotional aptitude is facilitated in a variety of ways including individual coaching, developing contemplative and mindfulness practices, cultivating strength-based team dynamics, deconstructing the stories that may be keeping you stuck, exploring the gaps between your cultural values and processes/practices, uncovering filters and beliefs that may be unintentionally driving behavior - creating resistance or obstacles, and increasing healthy emotional processing of difficult situations.